Don’t Take It Personal

We have been in full swing of crazy here.  Anyone else feel like that?  These are the months that are full of activities, long days, early mornings, and busy weekends.  However, somehow we make it through.  I think the exciting holiday talk, decorations, days off with family and friends, and overall spirit takes over and gives us the strength.

This isn’t a lengthy blog, but me simply getting my feelings out about something on my mind right now.  There is one thing I always try to keep in mind when these months arrive each year, but I will admit that it is much easier said than done. Especially when we are extra tired and sensitive.

This quote right here:

In a recent tweet by an inspiring educator, David Geurin, he said “Reminder: A student’s behavior usually says far more about what they are going through than what they are trying to put you through.”

 I appreciated this little tweet more than he knew that day.  I believe this to my very core and I’m grateful for quotes to remind me to check in with myself.  Sometimes I take a behavior personally before pausing and asking myself if I am calming them or joining their chaos.  We are all human, right?Chances are, this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with what is going on in their little world – and in most teenager’s worlds at the moment the littlest thing is HUGE!  I get it. We were all there.
During these next few weeks (and every week) I plan to pause and check in with the things they are NOT saying that speak loudly.  Check in with the behaviors that are crying out in the not so obvious way.  I hope to do this not only with my students but with my family as well.  I hope to bring calm and not join in the chaos.

Why I’m Keeping Track of Life

I LOVE holiday breaks!!  I love getting all that extra cuddling time with my family.  I love getting to lay around in my pajamas by the fire, reading all the books I have been talking about reading all year.  I love organizing closets. (I really do!) I love making long lists of all the things I need to accomplish over the time off.  Then, checking those off my list.  You see, I am one of those people that just cannot sit and “relax” by watching tv or just sitting.

This week, though, while I rushed around checking things off my list this break I felt different. I felt anxious about always having more laundry to finish, more corners to organize, more little school tasks to get checked off my list. I felt like the more I did, the more I added to my list to do! This led me to feeling irritated about not ever having it all done. How is that even possible?! It is. Believe me.  I asked myself, “Surely, I am not the only one that feels like this?” A few nights ago I was talking to one of my best friends, and she said the same thing!  This is why I knew when I saw the Hands Free Life book by Rachel Macy Stafford, I had to get it.  It was speaking to me!  Really, it was screaming my name.  🙂

I haven’t finished the book, but what I can tell you is that it’s speaking to the part of me that needed a wake up call.  It’s saying:

  • Stop hurrying through daily life. 
  • Let go of the need to get through the to-do list.
  • Create intentional actions to overcome distractions that try to pull me away from what matters most.
  • I can’t do it all! (Why would I even want to?!)
What really stuck with me was this simple part at the beginning.  
As I look through posts on Facebook, pins on Pinterest, articles on Twitter, blogs on my Inoreader…it is so easy to feel like I cannot even breathe because of all the ideas I want to take away to use or share with colleagues!  This quote reminds me I can’t do it all and it is OKAY!  
This may seem like an easy thing to do, but for this Type A, constantly going and doing, list-making mama, it is a constant battle. I think as educators, this is something we all battle to some extent.  I want to be able to do this more than anything else, but I know that it will not change overnight.  I know that I will have to be intentional in my actions to step back and not feel guilty.    
I am a passionate educator, a passionate person, always saying yes and wanting to help….but I need to remember to check in with how I am “Keeping Track of Life” – to quote Rachel Macy Stafford. I want to look back to see that I lived life and not just managed it.
I can’t wait to see what else this book reveals to me as I snuggle up by the fire to continue reading.